I completely understand. I think the obvious thing here is that you want to leave Jon for Bobby, which does make sense. You’re a good person for not wanting to hurt his feelings and being so nice, however yes it could be considered as leading him on since you don’t actually have feelings for him. I know you don’t want to hurt him, but by letting him go now, you’ll be hurting him less than letting him like you more and more and then letting him go. You don’t ever want to be in a relationship with someone you don’t want to be in a relationship with, so you should let Jon go. Just make sure you do it gently and honestly, just say there isn’t any chemistry for you, and do not let him suck you in! Now since he was a player, I’m sure he’ll survive, so don’t feel to bad. You’ll definitely be doing the right thing here by going for who you actually like. and as for the boat securing thing, it sounds to me that your other boat is already secure. so good luck :]
Okaay, so there’s just one thing. There’s a guy that I’m dating, lets call him Jon. And there’s the guy that I like, um, Bobby. I only said yes to Jon because I felt sorry for him, (am I leading him on?) I dont wanna be stuck in a relationship where I dont have any feelings, but hes a player, and hes admitted that hes actually gonna take this relationship seriously cos he really cares for me. I dont wanna end it cos I dont wanna break his heart, plus I dont wanna jump out of one boat until Im secure in another, get what Im saying? And Ive really, really liked Bobby for more than two months now, and he knows. Im positive that he likes me, but I just cant…you know. Help pls? ;[
