Lets start out with the facts, your boyfriend doesn’t like to do what you like to do, and you don’t like to what he likes to do. In some cases of relationships opposites work, but in this case I’m not so sure it does. My honest advice is he isn’t good for you at all. He makes you either stay in when you’re naturally adventurous, or go out of your way to see him. Relationships take two people working together, not one person making all the effort. You should always go with your instincts and what you want. If you never wanted to date someone that does the things he does, then you shouldn’t. There’s something I had to do in my freshman health class that I think you should try. Make a list of all the qualities you want in a guy and all the qualities you don’t. Now after you make that list, never settle for less. You deserve a great guy that will make you happy and actually explore life with you. You very sweetly called him an “indoor person” but frankly, he sounds just like a bum. You deserve a real man, not a childish couch potato. so go get what you deserve :]
hello. in my relationship, my boy friend does not like to go out very much. in fact, i’ll just say he is an indoor person, when he does go out, he hangs out with his boys and all they do is smoke and play video games. with me, he says he stops. when we go out to parties, he feels he has to ask me first if he can go outside with his friends to smoke weed, or if he can drink. i hate it, very much. but i do not want to be the reason he stops. i do not want him to feel like i’m his family, and i am trying to make him do something he does not want to do. sometimes i even start fights because i give him attitude when he gets back. i do not smoke myself, so i never had a thing for guys that smoke or drink, it is such a turn off to me. but little did i know, i ended it up with someone who did this all. i am not sure if i should let him do his own thing or not? sometimes we even fight because i do not see him as much as he wants to see me. since he stays at home, he usually makes me go out of my way to see him, when in our culture, my mom says that he should go out of his way just to see me. i get kind of bored staying indoors. in fact, i go out with my family and friends way more because i love adventures, and i love going out. we are feeling kind of distant from each other just because we are two different people. it’s causing us to fight, and he even admitted it to me. i’m not sure what i can do, i am being selfish enough to make myself happy. i just do not want to worry about what he does besides being with me.
